Judge A Book By Its Cover or Judge A Fruit By Its Look.

Few weeks ago, was chatting with a friend over the phone. We were chatting how many of us like to judge a person by the first impression. What you would say “judge a book by its cover” or “judge a fruit by its look” this is from me.

I used to be like that but as time past, I noticed it was very wrong to do that, most of the time my judgment was wrong too. How I judge a person, the other person can also do the same to me. Nowadays I tried as much as possible not to do it.

My friend said most people buy fruits they look at the fruits from the outside, like buying apple, pear and orange. You only noticed it is bad or rotten until you takes it home and cut open it. We can’t see inside when we purchased them. It is like selecting friends we never know they are good or bad until we get to know them or it is too late, already been cheated.

I continued with just like buying mango, mango that look nice and smell nice most of the time don’t taste good. Take example Australia mango and Thailand mango, black gold (黑金). Australia mangoes look so smooth and have that mango smell but the taste is not that great. Thailand black gold, look not so great, green sometime have black marking on it. When you cut open and taste the mango it is so good. So a person that wear a tie and coat and smell of perfume does not mean he/she is a good person, they could be devil in disguise or a wolf hiding under a sheep skin.

Then I added maybe we should choose our friends like buying durians, what the Chinese say “Bao Chi包吃”. When we buy durian we shake, smell, knock and give it a good look then we said ok. This one open and let me see inside. If inside looks like what you want you buy it.

We were laughing, and asked each other are you a durian, an apple or a mango. Both of us replied durian. Wah! Think so highly of ourselves. Then we added not everyone likes durian or can accept durian. We were laughing how our mind can make human characters match with fruits.

Nowadays both of us, if a friend irritates us, we would say, we didn’t know that he/she is a ……….and we will start laughing.

So which fruits are you, a D24, India mango, banana, passion fruits, strawberries…… Don’t tell me you are a ciku.

Looks Like I Worry too

This had been sitting in my laptop for quite sometime, was telling myself post or don't post. I had decided to post.

Meaning to write this for quite sometime but don’t know where to start. I am still scratching my head or rather searching my heart how to put it out. At the same time I do not want to sound like an old grandmother.

I think I look, yes! I think I look like I don’t care or want to know what happened around me. Like very cool. What the Chinese saying 天 跌 下 来 当 皮 盖 (tian die xia lai dang pi gai), meaning, “the sky fall take it as cover”. Don’t know whether I am right on this, my nephews, nieces and siblings might not think so. They might see me as K Poh as I sometime K Poh into their life or opinion.

Everyone goes thru the process of teenage or growing up, even I. During this time it is very important we take the right step, mix with the right people. If we do walk the wrong direction, we must realized and turn back.

My nieces who read this, I know I know you all are big boys and girls. You need your own space and privacy too. I want to say curiosity kills the cat. It is good to be curious but must always be careful. Even myself at this age I am still curious but always put my careful antenna on. Don’t play with fire, know your limit. Trust your instinct and be street smart.

I know each generation view and think differently, because of environment and media. When I was young, I see things differently from my parents too. Had lots of argument, but always they win. At that time I see them as bully, now that I am a senior citizen I understands that it is their worries that make them react that way. Some parents let you see their worries some keep it inside let you see the cool side of it.

As children we think we are mature, but when we’re faced with a situation we will know how mature we are.

I do worry but I know all the talking will show like nagging or scolding. I want to protect them but how much can I protect them, I am not God. If I am God I make sure they are protected by a special force field where no harm can come to them. I am not God so I can only pray for them. My prayers “Krsna (God) please guide them, keep them safe, show them the way to the right path. Let them know what is right and wrong. Keep people with bad intentions away from them and keep bad intention away from their head too.”

I am very glad that my 2 nephews pass their form 3 exam with good grades, especially Fat Fat. He now realized that studying is good for him and a ticket to better future. I had pulled his ears a few times when he could not care less on his studies. I hope he realized why I pulled his ears.

Ahh! I do sound like a grandmother, telling grandmother story is difficult when at the same time you want to look cool.

Later maybe later later If I feel like blogging on the parties that was throw in this very house those days, those old days.